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Joan Noblejewel, kajola Road, Ikeja (2026)

22/10/2024

Dear Parents

How do you want your child to remember their childhood?

Are you aware that your average day together with your child, is what forms your child’s childhood?

Perspective shifts have helped me so much in Parenting.

When we see things differently they can change how we do things, say things and we
realize how precious this time really is.

It's the mundane days that are the foundation for their childhood.

To see the beauty in that changes a lot.
To take time to be intentional about the average days will make a massive difference in our kids childhood.

- It's the way we speak to them
- It's the way we spend time with them
- It's the way we include them
- It's the way we teach them
- It's the way we nurture them
- It's the way we push them forward

It's the ordinary days that build their childhood. They matter more than we know.

What are some things that you hope your children remember about their childhood? Start doing those things with them.

If you want them to remember their childhood as filled with so much fun and love from their parents, start creating those experiences and memories with them.

Please share this to another parent.

18/10/2024

I once asked a very successful woman to share her secret with me.
She smiled and said to me..

“I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me..

I stopped fighting with my in laws..

I stopped fighting for attention..

I stopped fighting to meet public expectation of me..

I stopped fighting for my rights with stupid people..

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight..

And I started fighting for
my vision,
my dreams,
my ideas and
my destiny.

The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful.”

Some fights are not worth your time.
Choose what you fight for wisely.

– Amazing startups

It's never too late to start afresh.
Have a nice weekend.

18/10/2024

WHAT IT TAKES TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN TRUST IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE:

Building and maintaining trust in a relationship or marriage requires:

*Foundational Elements:*

1. Honesty: Transparency and truthfulness
2. Integrity: Consistency between words and actions
3. Communication: Open, clear, and respectful dialogue
4. Emotional Intelligence: Empathy, self-awareness, and self-regulation
5. Reliability: Following through on commitments
6. Vulnerability: Willingness to be open and susceptible
7. Accountability: Taking responsibility for actions
8. Respect: Valuing each other's feelings, needs, and boundaries
9. Consistency: Predictable behavior and follow-through
10. Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and resentments

*Trust-Building Behaviors:*

1. Active listening
2. Keeping promises
3. Showing appreciation and gratitude
4. Being dependable and reliable
5. Demonstrating empathy and understanding
6. Apologizing and making amends
7. Respecting boundaries and privacy
8. Sharing thoughts, feelings, and desires
9. Supporting each other's goals and dreams
10. Celebrating milestones and successes

*Maintaining Trust:*

1. Regular check-ins and open communication
2. Continual learning and growth together
3. Addressing conflicts and issues promptly
4. Practicing forgiveness and letting go
5. Cultivating emotional intimacy
6. Fostering independence and interdependence
7. Embracing vulnerability and openness
8. Setting realistic expectations
9. Prioritizing quality time together
10. Seeking help when needed (counseling, therapy)

*Challenges to Trust:*

1. Infidelity
2. Dishonesty or deception
3. Emotional or physical abuse
4. Neglect or abandonment
5. Substance abuse or addiction
6. Financial secrecy or manipulation
7. Lack of communication or emotional intimacy
8. Unresolved conflicts or resentments
9. External stressors (work, family, health)
10. Personal insecurities or traumas

*Rebuilding Trust:*

1. Acknowledge and accept responsibility
2. Seek counseling or therapy
3. Communicate openly and honestly
4. Reestablish boundaries and expectations
5. Focus on emotional intimacy and connection
6. Cultivate empathy and understanding
7. Demonstrate consistent behavior
8. Make amends and work towards healing
9. Practice self-reflection and growth
10. Foster a culture of forgiveness and understanding

*Remember:*

1. Trust is built incrementally.
2. Maintaining trust requires effort and commitment.
3. Forgiveness and understanding are essential.
4. Communication is key.
5. Vulnerability and openness foster deeper connection.

By prioritizing these elements, you can:

1. Build a strong foundation of trust.
2. Maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
3. Overcome challenges and conflicts.
4. Foster emotional intimacy and connection.
5. Create a lifelong, loving partnership.

13/10/2024

*I like this*

*THE POWER OF PRAYERS*
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*Let nothing be strong enough to cause you not to pray.*

*Anything that takes you away from prayer is not of God.*

**When you succeed, pray.*

*When you fail, pray even more.*

*When you are tired, pray.*

*When you are weak, pray*

*When you are sound in spirit, pray.*

*When you are happy, pray.*

*When you are sad, pray.*

*If you are living in holiness, pray.*

*When you are entangled in a sin, still pray.*

*When you feel guilty of a sin, pray.*

*When you are mocked, pray.*

*When you are hated, pray*

*When you are loved, pray.*

*When you plan to pray, start praying before you reach the time you planned to pray.*

*Pray during your prayer time, pray before your prayer time and pray after your prayer time. God hears all prayers whether in your prayer time or out of your prayer time, He hears!*

*When you wake up before your alarm, pray.*

*When you wake up after your alarm, don't be guilty, still pray.*

*Pray in season and pray out of season.*

*Don't just talk prayer, don't just plan prayer and don't just wish to pray. Start praying now.*

*Pray everyday! Pray in your schedule and out of your schedule.*

*God is far from the prayerless and closer to the prayerful.*

*Nothing is an excuse for 'prayerlessness', not your sin, not your failure, not your falling, not your mistakes, not your guilt and not your pain, not your tears.*

*Everything that happens to you has one message, PRAY.*

*Prayer draws God to you.*

*Prayer purifies you.*

*Prayer brings forgiveness.*

*Prayers brings power.*

*Prayer brings breakthrough.*

*Prayer brings healing.*

*Prayer brings miracles.*

*Prayer brings favour.*

*Prayer makes you a voice.*

*Prayer makes you live heaven on earth.*

*Prayer is walking with God.*

*Prayer is fuel for the journey.*

*Prayer is the force of victory in the midst of temptation.*

*Prayer is the doorway of the supernatural.*

*By prayer you came, by prayer you live, by prayer you are sustained and by prayer you will enter into your glory; if you doubt me, ask Jesus why He is still interceding for us.*

*Prayer is not a key, it's the key.*

*Brethren, whenever there's a call to prayer, give heed!*

*When people gather to pray, be there.*

*When people talk about prayer, give your ears.*

*When there is opportunity to pray, don't excuse yourself - it's a place to be.*

*Don't wait to be motivated to pray - pray to be motivated to pray.*

*Spending a week without praying will ultimately make you weak!*

*You must understand that you don't want prayer, you need it.*

*Therefore:*

*Pray when others are praying.*

*Pray when no one is praying.*

*Pray when asked, pray when not asked.*

_*Note*_
*You may forget to eat or forget to drink but NEVER forget to pray!*

*Pray! Pray! Pray!*

*Prayer is a mystery, prayer is life.*

*Let no devil be strong enough to stop your prayer.*

*Let no challenge be strong enough to stop your prayer.*

*Let not sin stop your prayer.*

*Be unstoppable!*

*Be ceaseless!*

*Be faintless!*

*Be tireless!*
*No*
*Don't give way, don't give out, don't give in and don't give up.*

*Keep Praying!!!*
*May God hear you when you pray.*

*God bless you. Amen*

30/09/2024

MEN SHOULD PREPARE THEMSELVES TO HANDLE WOMEN WHO ARE OVER 40.

(Boy Child Take Notes)

When some Women turn 40 or 50 years, something major shifts in their personality.

They become bolder, more rebellious, more religious, more focused, more opinionated and more emphatic about what they want.

Don’t be surprised when a previously obedient and submissive Woman on turning 40/50 changes completely.

Most especially when she had given birth to Children.

At this age, she may not go with the flow anymore, she may begin to ask some questions :
- Is s*x food?
- Query some of your instructions
- Even the way you behave.

She will also become more outspoken and will not be afraid to speak her mind.

If care is not taken, you may have to do for yourself :
- Dry cleaning
- Preparing food to eat

Because it might take her more time before she responds to your request.

There is something definitely special about turning 40/50 for Women.

If she has never challenged or questioned your instructions, get ready to be shocked by her boldness and confrontational attitude.

The only way to avoid total breakdown of Peace and Harmony in the home is for Men to become fair, objective and reasonable in their approaches to issues at home and/or at work.

Men should bear in mind that at this age, Women also harbour lots of regrets about the decisions they have made in life so far ... Their Husbands may be one of them!

A woman at this age is a better Judge of character and will evaluate a Man using very different & weird parameters.

Men must start on time to prepare for this phase in the lives of their Wives/Partners/Bosses/Subordinates.

What you put in is what you get!
If you have treated her fairly, then you don’t have anything to worry about.

She will begin to appreciate you better if for any reason she didn’t do so in the past.

On the contrary if you haven’t been nice to her, fasten your seatbelt, the ride is about to get pretty bumpy.

Have a blessed week ahead.

29/09/2024

When you marry a narcissistic man, you never get the chance to be a wife; instead, you take on the role of a mother because these grown adults behave like man-children. They go to work Monday through Friday and then spend their weekends sitting in front of a laptop, downloading music, playing video games, or creating messes for you to clean. You find yourself both single and a parent simultaneously, shouldering the weight of responsibilities without the support of a partner.

Narcissists don't marry for love or partnership; they marry because they want a maid, cook, secretary, banker, and a babysitter. They crave control, not connection. Their selfish desires consume them, leaving you to manage the household, raise the children, and cater to their every whim. Your dreams of a loving, equal relationship are shattered, replaced by the harsh reality of servitude.

As the days turn into weeks, and the weeks into years, you become a shadow of your former self. Your identity is erased, replaced by the exhausting duties of managing a narcissist's life. You're forced to sacrifice your own desires, interests, and friendships to accommodate their demands. The emotional labor is suffocating, leaving you drained, resentful, and wondering how you ended up in this nightmare.

You're not alone in this struggle. Many women have fallen prey to the charming facade of a narcissist, only to find themselves trapped in a loveless, thankless role. Remember, you deserve better. You deserve a partner who loves, supports, and respects you. Don't let the narcissist's gaslighting convince you otherwise. Break free from this toxic cycle and reclaim your life. You are more than a mother to a man-child; you are a strong, capable, and worthy individual who deserves to be loved and cherished.
Class dismissed.......
# Remember Love is Natural ❣️
Enjoy your day 💕

Don't forget it's never too late to start afresh.

25/09/2024

SECRET ABOUT WOMEN

1. When a woman is angry, she doesn't mean over half of what she says. If possible always hug her to calm her down.

2. The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves. She can get distressed.

3. It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change her mind when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it.

4. A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.

5. Your wedding certificate with her is not a " Driving license", its just a "Learners permit". Continue wooing her.

6. She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach. Yes treat her right always.

7. A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt. Avoid negative words and affirm her always.

8. A woman can be highly secretive. Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and cry to friends. Make your woman your best friend.

9. All women Love to be begged. Men often miss out on this. Yes please handle them like babies sometime its all they want.

10. All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.

11. If she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as far as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you.

12. If you don't take care of her, she will find someone who will. They are always there only that she chose you.

13. If a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, but as a gentleman don't wait to be asked and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily. That's what makes them special
If you have a good woman in your life, don't take her for granted. They are expensive jewelry. Don't hurt them cos there are many out there that wish to have someone like her

In every man success there must be a good honest Woman behind.

Best Wishes 🙏❤️🙏

25/09/2024

WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR WIFE WITHOUT HURTING HER

Many men hurt their wives in the name of correction. They speak harshly; they approach rashly and they can be very brutal.

Lots of women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the careless ways their husbands have been talking to them over time.

Here, you will be able to know the right ways to talk to your wife without hurting her:

1. LOWER THE TONE OF YOUR VOICE: Don’t shout at her, she is not your housemaid or your child. Correct her with a calm tone in love.

2. DO IT IN LOVE: Correction should be done in love. If done in any other way, it turns to criticism and condemnation.

3. DON’T CRITICIZE: Stop criticizing her. Rather, correct in love. Many will say it's constructive criticism. It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.
Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes.

Correction and criticism are never the same.

Husband A says, "What manner of food is this?" "Is this popcorn or fried rice?" "How I wish I married a more sensible wife with better home training and who can cook better."

Husband B says, "Sweetheart this rice is too salty and dry, unlike the one you did yesterday. I think the salt level should be reduced any other time because of our health."

Husband A criticized, Husband B corrected his wife in love.

Stop criticizing your wife.

4. PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT: It will be wrong to correct when it’s not well done. Form the habit of praising and appreciating your wife for good deeds.

5. DON’T DO IT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN: Avoid correcting your wife in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your wife before your children will make them disrespect her.

6. DON’T CORRECT HER IN THE PUBLIC: Avoid correcting your wife in the public, it does not show you as a gentleman. It will also affect her self-esteem.

7. AVOID CORRECTION IN ANGER: Stop correcting your wife in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Real men don’t do that.

8. DON’T COMPARE HER WITH ANY OTHER WOMAN: In your thought of correcting her, you might have been comparing her with other women. “Don’t you see what your friend is doing?”
“Can’t you learn from our neighbour's wife?”

“I think you should borrow a leaf from Deaconess Mary”

This is very wrong, no woman loves to be compared with others, stop it.

9. AVOID REFERRING TO OLD ISSUES: Avoid referring to issues discussed and settled. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.

10. DON’T ATTACK HER: Don't say, "And you call yourself a woman?" "Virtuous women don’t behave like this, you better change before I change you." This is very wrong, don’t do it.

11. DON’T ATTACK HER DIGNITY: Don't say, "You don’t behave like someone with sense, do you think at all?" "And you said you went to school, I doubt it." Don't talk like this to your wife, it is wrong!

12. DON’T ATTACK HER WOMANHOOD: Men are fond of attacking their wives’ womanhood anytime they make mistakes. Don't say things like, "I don’t blame you, you are just a woman" "Women are not known to be wise"

This is very wrong. Science has proved that men's brain works just like the brain of women.

Men are not necessarily wiser than women, wisdom is not about gender.

13. DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE: Most husbands want to correct in the heat of anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct; it will yield little or no result.

14. GIVE A HELPING HAND: The best way to correct is to lead by example. Step into the kitchen to give a helping hand, don’t just sit in front of the television correcting what goes on in the kitchen.

Wives are doing a great job. Appreciate yours and support her to be a better wife and good mother to your children.

17/09/2024

Today's Readings and Reflection with Fr Blessed Njume
Tuesday 17 September, 2024

*Memorial* : St. Robert Bellarmine, (Bishop & Doctor of the Church).

*1st Reading* : 1 Cor. 12:12-14. 27-31.
*Resp. Psalm* : Ps. 100.
*Response - We are his people, the sheep of his flock.*
*Gospel* : Lk. 7:11-17.

*THERE IS ONE LORD; ONE FAITH; ONE BAPTISM; ONE GOD WHO IS FATHER OF US ALL.* As the body has different parts and each is unique in its function yet works for the good of the entire body, so are we in the Church. We are each unique with different talents and gifts to be used for the good of the entire church. Do you want to do it all by yourself? Do you claim to know it all? Do you fear to let others use their talents because they will outshine you? Do you collaborate? Do you rather choose those whom you like even if they do not have the talent than let those who have the talent use it because you don't like or want them? All are not prophets. All are not apostles. All are not teachers. All do not work miracles. Yet, each in his/her own unique way, as blessed by God, works for the good of the Church. Shine where you have a talent and let others shine where they have a talent. Learn to work together and accept others.
*May God grant us this grace in Jesus name 🙏*

Good morning and have a blessed day today 🙏😇

04/09/2024

Please take things easy…
- fuel is now almost #1000 per litter ooh…
- Gas N1400 per Kg

And put your total trust in God (not man oh).

The Rate at which People Just die all of a Sudden is becoming alarming.

Most Nigerians know that we are in,
- [ ] a Period of Frustrations,
- [ ] Depressions
- [ ] Confusion
- [ ] Terror,
- [ ] Stress,
And the like….

All these increase
- [ ] The Risk of High Blood Pressure
- [ ] Which also leads to Heart Failure or Attack
- [ ] Of course, which can cause sudden death,
Which is now Rampant!

Please, move away from being provoked easily,

- [ ] By your Children,
- [ ] Friends,
- [ ] Colleagues,
- [ ] Superiors,
- [ ] Subordinates,
- [ ] Partners,
- [ ] Husbands and Wives.

Also,
- [ ] Avoid reacting to things aggressively.
- [ ] Isolate yourself from Disturbances.
- [ ] Avoid too much thinking

When there is no money or food at home,
Just stay cool and calm.

If you don't attend that wedding this time because of Aso-ebi, in nine months, you will attend the child naming ceremony. Don't borrow to buy that aso-ebi!

- [ ] Avoid the exchange of words with People

- [ ] At Home, Markets, Offices, etc. Always check your BP,

- [ ] Take your Drugs,

- [ ] Follow Instructions,

- [ ] And Exercises.

- [ ] Go to see your Doctor immediately if you feel changes in your body, Especially your Chest.

- [ ] Stay in Peace*

- [ ] And never fight anyone

- [ ] Don't be anxious about anything, instead pray without ceasing

Your Health is far better than any worldly thing.
- [ ] Beware of Transferred Aggression.
- [ ] Stay alive for yourself
- [ ] Stay alive for your family
- [ ] Stay alive for your glorious tomorrow
- [ ] We only have one life to live,
- [ ] Stay alive for me, you may help me tomorrow😏
- [ ] Don't die before your time
- [ ] This phase will come to an end.

It shall be well.

This message is Very important. Please Share on All Platforms & To all your contacts, you never know whom you are saving..
May Allah ease our affiars

Slow and steady wins the race

01/09/2024

Please
If you are dating someone, try and find out how that person was raised.
Alot of people was not raised on Love... They were raised on "SURVIVAL" and that is why you see many men and women not being able to love properly.(HURT PEOPLE END UP HURTING PEOPLE). It's only where the individual that's being hurt overtimes decides consciously and intentionally to leg go and let God that they're freed from hurting others.

The mentality of individuals raised on Love is quite different.
Love speaks a universal language. It is difficult to love broken and da%ma%ged people.

Many don't understand love and that's why they end up using them for ri #£tuals. That somebody gives you money doesn't mean you are loved. The beggars,ndi almaijiri that you give food and money,are you giving it to them because you love them? No!

You will find a lot of good looking People damaged inside because of their past and you will not realize how damaged they are until you try to love them. Understanding is omnipotent. Understanding is key 🔑.

When people talk,I know where to place them. Take a closer look at how people behave on social media and use it as case study to advise yourself. Most narcissistic individuals come here to preach what they don't practice or even have the intention of practising.

Ever wondered why people celebrate marriage anniversaries that doesn't exist? Ever wondered why people plan their birthdays and get surprised? Buy audio houses and cars just to pepper their perceived enemies. So many are da%ma%ged by low self esteem and inferiority complex and they call it love.

Men are scu # are statements made by brok%en and dam%aged women. Women are us%ele%ss are statements made by dama men. Please check that individual out very well before committing your life to him or her. An individual who grew up in a toxic environment will not escape being toxic,it doesn't matter if he or she is a pastor. There are pastors who are mol # %te
Please check well

This life u need to really look well. A lot of things are hidden under clothes. Only if the eyes can see the inner part of a human.
But in all ask God for his help and guidance.
One mistake can ruined you for eternity.
Happy new months from here.

30/08/2024

Here are some ideas to make your bedroom a cozy and welcoming space.

1.. Comfortable bedding

2..Dim lighting

3.. soothing colour

4.. Minimize clutter:::keep the room tidy and organized, avoiding clutter and mess

5...Cozy Textiles’' ;. Add throw blanket, rugs and pillows in soft and inviting materials.

6.. Sensual Scents

7,,.. Private and quiet;;; Ensure the room is quiet and private,using curtains or earplugs if needed.

8 ...Personal touches;;;;;;Display personal photos, artwork or sentimental objects that resonate with your relationship.

9... Technology_free zone::::: Consider making bedroom a tech_free space to promote relaxation and connection.

10....Fresh flowers:::: Surprise your spouse with flowers to add a touch of warmth and thoughtfulness.

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