19/02/2021
WHATEVER IS NOT SAID IN YOUR PRESENCE HAS NOT BEEN SAID AT ALL
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WILLIAMS
In June 2019 precisely, a fellow came to me and told me a lot of things someone else had said. They were very hurtful words said about me. This reporter claimed the speaker had confided in him and he felt there was a need to let me know. He actually knew the other fellow had fallen out with me and it was an opportunity to slice him to pieces. He discussed with me on a Tuesday.
By Saturday, I had invited him to a restaurant. I played him the Estherian card. He ate wraps of pounded yam and was playing with a tooth-pick when the fellow he reported walked in. He was shocked to see him. Apparently, he knew I had invited him to the meeting.
I tabled all I heard he said about me and immediately the reporter broke down. It was obvious he was trying to fuel the fire of disagreement. That was the last time I saw him. The fellow he blackmailed works with me directly today.
Many time, when we feed on gossips, we hurt ourselves. A lot of times, those who approach us telling us creative lies would always tell us because they know that's what we love to hear. Of course, those reported to us may not be as bad as we think and we will be shocked they are innocent. Too many times, we have lost our best of friends to gullible gossips.
I have seen very broke people spreading terrible tales because they need some cash. I know people who go around fueling the fire of dispute because they need favours. So they feel, if some fire is not fueled, there will be no favours. I once recorded an hour conversation and played to two folks before; one of them was saying things the other never said.
We offend God, ourselves and innocent people when we draw conclusions from hear-says. So many times, when we dislodge people because of rumours, we hurt ourselves forever. As an undergraduate, my academic mentor once taught me the need to draw conclusions from proven facts. *Sometimes, some words are quoted out of context to please our ears.*
*IT IS MATURITY TO ALWAYS FIND OUT! IT IS TIMIDITY TO ALWAYS ASSUME GOSSIPS ARE TRUTHS.*
None of my mentees would dare come to me to speak ill of someone else. Not at The City of Talents. If you won't defend me there, then shut up! If it was easy for anyone to speak ill of me when you were present, you are evil yourself. I can't imagine anyone speaking ill of those I honour in my presence. No! It is not possible. A new follower came to me and told me someone said such and such things about me, my question was 'did she send you to me?'
It is wise to listen. It is wiser to find out without covering the reporter. Nobody would come to you gossiping about others if they don't feel it's your hobby. Many times, we hold grudges at heart and wrong the right people. Many times it takes years to understand we indeed lost those who truly loved us to the cemetery of gossips.
Nothing has been said if not said in our presence.
Indeed,
*Whatever is not said in your presence has not been said at all.*
MY OPINION
Dr Williams Oreofe