03/09/2026
We used to argue about so many little things.
Why does the food have to be separate?
Why canāt you just wear the uniform?
Do you really need the headphones?
Why are the shin guards on the outside?
Canāt you just try it?
Why does everything have to be such a big deal?
And if youāve got a sensory kid, you probably know how quickly those ālittle thingsā can turn into the thing that makes everyone late, ruins the outing, stops you getting out the door or ends in a full meltdown.
For us, things got easier when we stopped asking āwhy canāt you justā¦ā and started asking āwhat would make this easier?ā
So the meal gets changed.
The uniform gets adapted.
The headphones come with us.
The gloves go on for cooking.
She gets space when she needs it.
And when she says something doesnāt feel right, we believe her.
Not because weāve given up.
Because some battles just werenāt worth having.
Sometimes the easiest fix is to stop insisting thereās only one right way to do things.
Whatās one thing you stopped arguing about once you realised it was sensory?
Amanda Xx.
