05/06/2026
Motherhood may not be natural for everyone.
For some mums, it takes time to bond with their baby. It takes time to feel like themselves again.
And that’s okay.
One of the biggest takeaways from my conversation with Dr Kamini, Senior Consultant Psychiatrist, and mum of 2 was this:
**Not everything that happens to your baby is your fault.**
Motherhood has a way of taking over everything.
Your sleep.
Your body.
Your schedule.
Your identity.
Unknowingly, many of us stop asking:
”How am I doing?”
When you’ve just had a baby, you’re exhausted, emotional, and vulnerable. A comment from a family member, friend, or even a stranger can hit you like a bus.
But here’s something I wish I’d understood earlier:
When those comments come, allow yourself to feel what you feel. But when you can, take a step back and ask:
👉 Is there actually a basis for this comment?
👉 Is this fact, or just someone else’s opinion?
More often than not, it’s the latter.
And if you’re struggling, it’s ok to talk to someone and seek support. You don’t have to carry it all alone.
The more we practise separating facts from guilt, the better we become at recovering from the emotional punches that motherhood inevitably throws our way.
You are doing better than you think.
Mums are some of the highest-functioning people on the planet.
And our greatest superpower isn’t perfection.
It’s love. 💛
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