05/10/2020
Wow--- She is spot on with this !
Frankly? You don’t have to know what you’ll do when the kids grow up, buy a Mother’s Day card for you, while they tell their friends, their therapist, & their own kids that you got so much wrong.
You just have to know that you’ll humbly own it.
Because they aren’t wrong.
It’s tender & true: You could have held them longer after they grew too big for your arms: held space for their pain, held their eyes, held them up in relentless prayers.
You could have said yes to more campfires, jumped more on the trampoline & been known more for your loud, rowdy laughter instead of being the ready critic.
You could have asked more honest questions & lingered longer, simply honouring them with listening space. You could have said yes. And No. Both at the right time.
Where you tried & fell short, they now trip & fall & have bruises to prove it.
Much dysfunction is a function of denying brokenness.
The madness of much dysfunction ends now, ends with our owning it. Yes, things were broken. And: All the brokenness can be the tender breaking open of a seed to grow better.
No matter your hidden regrets or their current age:
You can tenderly own that you took some wrong turns & it’s never too late to simply turn toward the Light.
Life always turns on the turn.
And: Parenting is never about how your kids turn out. It’s always & only about how you keep turning toward your kids and their Maker.
Motherhood is never about training your children to be good so they won’t ever fall — it’s about letting them see you fall in love every day with a good God.
And even after you fallen hard — they see you keep falling hard for God.
Simply: The work of every parent is to give the best they know how now —& the work of every child is to forgive their parents the best they can now.
Our work will look different, but we both have growing work to do.
Come what may this Mother’s Day weekend, there is only always grace & more amazing grace coming to meet us all....
And a mother’s labor & delivery never really ends — because it’s the beginning of a love story that works all things out in the end.
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