Daring Fat

03/10/2024

Fat hate is 100% about the hater. Repeat after me... FAT HATE IS NOT ABOUT ME. It’s not ours to be responsible for, respond to, or attempt to change for. Does it affect me? Abso-f*cking-lutely. Fat hate informs decisions about the world around me in almost every way - access to medical care, products designed for smaller bodies, job interviews, ... The list goes on. And on. And on. But one on one - does an anti-fat bigot know anything about me or have a right to make any judgments about my body? Nope. Does that change when the bigot is family or friend? Nope. Do they live in your body? Nope. On good days I feel compassion for fat hating bigots... On bad days, I pity them. And when they trigger me, it’s an opportunity to explore my own inner world of feelings and thoughts and beliefs. Reject the hate - it’s about the hater - not you. Because you, my fine fat friends, are fabulous just as your are ❤️

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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

03/06/2024

03/04/2024

Have a lovely day my gorgeous fabulous fat friends. You are spectacular just as you are ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

02/28/2024

10 signs you’re in a cult:

-Absolute authoritarianism without accountability
-Zero tolerance for criticism or questions
-Lack of meaningful financial disclosure regarding budget
-Unreasonable fears about the outside world that often involve evil conspiracies and persecutions
-A belief that former followers are always wrong for leaving and there is never a legitimate reason for anyone else to leave
-Abuse of members
-Records, books, articles, or programs documenting the abuses of the leader or group
-Followers feeling they are never able to be “good enough”
-A belief that the leader is right at all times
-A belief that the leader is the exclusive means of knowing “truth” or giving validation

All the years I hated my body and hated myself unless I was dieting and losing weight... Strikingly similar... Don’t ya think?

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

02/27/2024

An article in the NYT yesterday talked about fat influencers that are getting thin. (I have always maintained that one of the absolute hardest things about the Intuitive Eating journey is losing weight. It’s a total mind f**k.) The example influencer got thin, never spoke about it on IG, and to the NYT revealed that “she had relapsed into the disordered eating practices that she had struggled with throughout her life”, and then was too scared, or “couldn’t figure out” how to share that, or didn’t owe that explanation to anyone. The article makes no mention of how sad it is that the influencer is now back in their eating disorder. And the final word from the NYT? A quote from the disillusioned follower, “I guess weight is just as much of a trend as anything else.” Grrrrrr.
What do I expect of fat influencers that are now losing weight? Fu***ng OWN it and be honest! Maybe share what you’re going through. Everybody is allowed to make their own decisions about how to care for and treat their own bodies. But if you can’t be honest about your journey, you don’t have anything to teach me anymore anyhow. BLOCK.

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

02/25/2024

Thinking. Thoughts. NOT REAL! They are just constructs in our head. It’s the function of your brain to categorize, organize, and make sense of the world around us. Unfortunately, it’s frequently wrong! When you are thinking, when you are stuck in a rabbit hole of thinking, you will never achieve food and body peace and freedom. Start by learning how to simply recognize when you are thinking - vs. when you are feeling. When you’re having a sensation: sound, touch, smell, etc. What’s the difference? Pay attention. With curious non-judgmental awareness. Ask yourself... What is truly happening? And do I believe it? Does that thought match my values? ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

02/23/2024

A necessary component of working towards peace with food and your body is mastering “unconditional permission to eat”. Unconditional permission to eat seeps in and cracks open your brain and you start thinking... “So why do I need to be perfect? For who? Who’s version of perfect? Who taught me that? Where did I get that idea? Perfect isn’t even possible. I have permission to be my fabulous imperfect self ❤️”. It leads to questioning the rules and shoulds in your head that have NOT served you. It leads to finding out who you are. What you want. Who you want to be. What is important to you. You get to choose! You do not have to simply accept the fat hate narrative that you were gifted in childhood and that our culture screams at us from all sides. You get to decide to reject all the external BS and write your own values and priorities. So go for it! Try giving yourself unconditional permission to eat and see how it feels and experience the journey to food and body peace that unfolds before you ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

02/21/2024

Without self-compassion, change of any kind is not possible. Unlike intentional weight loss attempts which heavily rely on shame as the motivator, the foundation of Intuitive Eating and fat self-acceptance is self-compassion. Those thoughts in your head that you aren’t good enough or worthy or lovable or attractive in a fat body? You can’t battle those with logic or anger or shame. I guarantee you that they will never go away until you learn to practice self-compassion. Follow and check out her website with free self-compassion meditations. By learning to hold yourself with self-compassion you learn that you are enough, you are worthy, you are lovable, and yes - you are attractive - in any size body.

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

12/31/2023

You don’t have to try to control what other people think of you. You don’t have to try yet again to lose weight. You don’t have to hide your body or your wonderful self. You don’t have to make anyone understand except you. You don’t owe anyone anything. You don’t have to be different or better or perfect or thin or whatever it is that you are convinced will make everything right. You are perfect just as you are. Just be fat. That’s it. May you have a gentle 2024 as safe as possible from anti-fat bigots, weight stigma, and all the well meaning as****es that are gonna comment on your body ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating. Free guided mindful movement for coaching clients. Cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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Want to read the science behind rejecting dieting and accepting your fat body? Check out the searchable DaringFat scientific research library on Google Drive - linked to from the Resources page of daringfat.com.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

12/30/2023

One of the hardest lessons in reclaiming movement is to listen to our bodies. For our entire lives, our loved ones, our doctors, and the entire world tell us folx in fat bodies “DO NOT TRUST YOUR BODY!” Not surprising then that listening to our bodies feels scary as f*ck. If you’re fat, clearly you don’t know how to eat, you can’t be trusted, and your body is a major problem. Why on earth would we listen? I know I’m not alone in the abject failure of trying to motivate myself with, “it’s the ‘healthy’ thing to do”, “I’ll lose weight”, “I should”, “I know I’ll feel better”... These are all thoughts. If you are thinking, you are in the wrong place. It’s time to let your body call some of the shots. It’s time to let BEING take over. It’s time to listen. Shhhh... Get real quiet. Breathe. Can you find your body’s voice? It’s there and it is yearning to be heard ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating. Free guided mindful movement for coaching clients. Cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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Want to read the science behind rejecting dieting and accepting your fat body? Check out the searchable DaringFat scientific research library on Google Drive - linked to from the Resources page of daringfat.com.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

12/24/2023

It feels like we all need some extra support these days. The world seems to be exploding in suffering and like many of you reading this, I am struggling. But I know that helping folx makes me feel better. Connecting with fat folx trying to make peace with food and their bodies makes me feel better. It gives me hope. So for the first time, I am offering a discount on 1:1 Intuitive Eating/Fat Self-Acceptance coaching. Sign up for 5 sessions before 1/15/24 and pay only $32.50/hr - 35% off the normal rate of $50/hr. Email me at [email protected] and sign up for a free 15 min Zoom meet/greet to see if you feel that we are a good fit. In the meantime, have yourself a very gentle holiday season. Love to you all ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating. Free guided mindful movement for coaching clients. Cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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Want to read the science behind rejecting dieting and accepting your fat body? Check out the searchable DaringFat scientific research library on Google Drive - linked to from the Resources page of daringfat.com.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

12/23/2023

Binge eating disorder - BED. Recovery is without a doubt the hardest and most rewarding work I have ever done in my life. And by “hardest” I mean the #$@!% hardest work ever. EVER! I “miss” binging. I “miss” the promise of perfection. I “miss” hiding at home with food. I miss these things because they literally saved my life. They were the tools I used to survive. Once I learned that there was NO SHAME in these things, that they had HELPED me to survive, the door opened on the possibility of trying something different. I asked myself... What if I’m wrong? What if there is a different way to soothe myself? What if there is no such thing as perfection? What if dieting really truly will never “work”? What if I am actually perfectly imperfect just as I am and have NOTHING to feel shame about? What if I’m just another flawed human and I’m actually fabulous, lovable, creative, smart, funny, and WORTHY just as I am? Go ahead - blow your mind and ask yourself - are you worthy? The answer waiting for you to discover some day is - Yes. You are. You most definitely are ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating. Free guided mindful movement for coaching clients. Cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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Want to read the science behind rejecting dieting and accepting your fat body? Check out the searchable DaringFat scientific research library on Google Drive - linked to from the Resources page of daringfat.com.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia