11/05/2022
Do any other moms actually do this? I wish I could. I dont get anyone to watch my girls and if I do then I feel bad for having to leave them for a bit/while etc.. I never have time for myself and what not.. maybe it is needed but I just dont think so lol
Day in and day out, you put yourself LAST. No matter how emotionally or physically worn out you are, no matter how crummy you feel that day with cramps or peri-menopausal or menopausal symptoms, a bad headache or just sheer exhaustion because you couldn't fall asleep until 2am worrying about everything swirling around in your head - you keep going, you keep doing, you keep giving.
But mama, listen to me...
YOU are the glue that holds your family together.
YOU are the one who sets the temperament of your family.
YOU are the heartbeat of your family, whether you realize it or not.
How you feel, how well you're coping, and your mindset matters so much more than you realize.
Don't get swept up in the current of "constantly doing." Giving yourself the freedom to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING or something you enjoy isn't a weakness. You're not a bad or neglectful mom because you've told your family they're on their own for dinner tonight, that your teen is going to have to find their own ride tonight, or that they can wash their own uniform.
Sometimes, you have to put your hand up to your family and say, "Today, I'm putting myself first." And, trust me on this one... not only is it SO good for you, it's good for them! Not being at their beck and call means they'll start to appreciate you more, understand that you have needs, too and that you're not a machine that keeps going regardless of the circumstances.
It took me a while to figure this one out. I have friends who were far better at this than I was, but I finally arrived at the mindset. And, it was the best thing for me and my family.
So, today, tomorrow, or this weekend, do something that re-energizes you, comforts you, inspires you or relaxes you... you owe it to yourself. Teach your family that YOU MATTER, TOO.
To every tired, worn-out mama... It's time for change. xoxo