25/02/2021
Does your child ever wake up just an hour or two after falling asleep, screaming at the top of their lungs and completely inconsolable?
I recently had this happen to one of my clients and so I thought it would be a good area to touch on as it’s something quite a few of you may find useful to know.
It’s a horrible situation to be in as a parent because nothing you seem to do makes any difference and the cry your child makes is so piercing that you are adamant they must be in some kind of pain. And its also most likely that they will try to push you away, as if you are some kind of danger to them.
If this sounds familiar and rings true with you, then what they are probably experiencing is a confusional arousal.
This is sleep disturbance that usually happens in the first half of the night so its when your child will be in their deepest sleep.
It usually happens when they were overtired when they fell asleep, so instead of drifting off gently and smoothly they zonk out.
When they wake with a start, they do not fully come back to consciousness and they are trapped in a middle place between being in deep sleep and awake.
When you try to comfort them and they push you away, its actually because you become part of their dream like state and they feel threatened by you.
So if this happens again, rather than picking them up and cuddling them you are better off staying a distance away and just monitoring them, so that you can see they are not doing themselves any harm. Its really hard to do this as a parent as it goes against your instinct but the confusional arousal will be much shorter if you do and your child will soon settle back to sleep by themselves.
The best thing about a confusional arousal is that your child won’t remember it in the morning and so even though it sounds awful to you at the time, they will be completely unaffected by the ordeal.
And… if you want to avoid this happening again download one of my sleep charts for free and see if your child is getting enough sleep for their age.
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