09/01/2019
PART 1 love & friendship between opposite genders, lets have a
Boy & Girl : He/she helps me to learn deen | we're classmates | ohh we're just friends nothing like bf gf! Is it still haram to talk?
Bf & Gf : I like her/him, we don't talk with each other but text & chat but we don’t meet or commit zina & keep our relationship pure(halal). We will marry soon. Is it still haram?
Firstly when you're involve in a certain relationship & you question urself about it's Halalling, it definitely means that something is really going wrong, that's why ur heart doubts on it & this doubt or guilty that you feel inside, is a sign that you still have imaan in your heart but the justification you show in self-defense e.g - Just Friends, Mate In Deen, Our Love Is Pure, We'll Marry, My fiancee etc is actually whispers of shaitaan with layered of your deaf emotions which knows the truth but unwilling to accept.
Yes, you know that "No man is alone with a woman but the shaytaan is the third one present.” then why are you taking risk & pretending to be safe?
Have you forgotten what Prophet said? “I am not leaving behind any fitnah (trial, temptation) more harmful to men than women.” - [ Note : Man are also fitnah for woman].
No matter what, you talk in calls, do texting or chit chat, you're friends, lovers or fiancee, you aren't married yet & he or she isn't your Mahraam but "NON-Mahram". And you know the result - "Man mixing with woman is like fire mixing with wood". Does that ring a bell on your head?
Or you've another justification to give?
How about "I've faith in myself & I won't fall for shaitaan's trap! Is it permissible then?"
Great, awesome, I like your spirit, but what about your partner dear? What about the person behind the call? What if his/her heart gets moved with desires? What if for him/her you're more than a friend? How will you save them from destroying their imaan? Or is there any guarantee that you won't caught up with the same disease in your heart?
No guarantee right?
That's why stay away from free mixing because it has disastrous effects on our Iman and takes away our focus from Allah Azzawajal.
