15/08/2025
My wife's female staff took permission to be away for a month to take care of her sick father. She was granted the permission without hesitation and with some financial support because she is good.
She left on a Monday, but surprisingly she reappeared at work on Thursday the same week, to everyone's surprise. It was then that we heard things we didn't know about her and her family.
She told us they she and her siblings grew up like fatherless children while their father was alive and healthy. He was living in Abuja while she and her siblings lived in their hometown in a State in the South East. That he would visit home for burials or weddings or during Christmas and new year. During his visit, everyone, including their mother would receive beatings several times before he left. It was so bad that they would pray for him not to visit or die while traveling back.
Strangely, he was always targeting the right time to visit and impregnate their mother. That's how she had six children. Their mother struggled so much to raise the six of them without assistance because he never sent any money to them. Many times they were sent out of school due to their owing school fees. Their mother was widely known for borrowing money everywhere.
She worked on people's farms for a pay, she farmed heavily on her own, sold seasonal fruits, worked as a teacher, baked cakes, did decorations at event, did mama put (local restaurant) business and so forth all to feed her children.
The children would call, send messages and letters to their father for help especially when they were sent out of school to no avail.
They suffered so much as children that one of her brothers left Nigeria through the desert and till date they don't even know if he's still alive.
Her father never allowed his wife or children to visit him or know where he lived in Abuja.
Fast forward to January this year, 28 years+ after, his community development union, Abuja branch and his age grade, Abuja branch too started calling his wife and children to make arrangements to come to Abuja to take him home. That his health was failing. According to them, he had suffered for high blood pressure for some years now. But recently PROSTRATE PROBLEM (BPH) joined. He has been on catheter since last year.
When his wife and children refused to go to Abuja, his union/committee of friends chattered a vehicle and took him home.
Meanwhile, all these years, he was linked to different women who at one time or another cohabitated with him. But a particular one from Kogi state lived with him and had two children for him. But when his health started getting bad, especially when the prostatitis started, she picked all the valuable things in the house when he was not around and left with the two children.
Now, he's in the village, sick, carrying urine bag up and down. They needed people to take care of him.
Meanwhile, his wife, due to too much hard work and struggle to train six children alone, has been down too. Arthritis happens to be one of the things troubling her.
Immediately the man was brought home, one of her married daughters who is doing well financially came and took her away, saying that she's not strong enough to take care of a sick man. The last born who was around left home immediately he arrived. Others are in different cities and nobody agreed to come.
My wife's staff volunteered to go, against everyone's advice. Like I said, she left on Monday but couldn't get to her hometown the same day. When she reached on Tuesday, her father was angry with her. She still calmed down and started cleaning up, cooking and washing his clothes. He started his usual yelling, cursing and threatening.
On Wednesday, he asked for tea, she went to buy it and made for him. She dropped the tea and left. Few minutes later, he called her, when she got closer he threw the tea at her and the hot tea splashed on her. His complaint was that he wanted Lipton and not milo. That was how this lady went into the house, picked her bag and left via night bus. When her siblings heard what happened, they were laughing at her. Meanwhile, this lady has been spending her own money since she arrived there. He doesn't have money and none of his children agreed to send anything.
Dusty men are something else. Even at their deathbed, some of them still won't change or become remorseful.
His Dusty family is threatening the children that if anything happens to him that they'll never enter the community again. Some si-lly people accuse the wife of turning his children against him. Aren't they daft? Do you still need to turn such children against their father after everything they witnessed?
If you are one of such men, adjust now before it's too late. If you are a single lady, avoid them by all means. If you are married to one already, don't fill the house with children. Suffer head no dey tire una sef?
Uwa ntoor!
