Gellish Lucena

06/10/2023

Here are 10 brutal truths that everyone needs to hear.

1. You're going to die and you have no idea when.

Stop pretending that you're invincible. Acknowledge the fact of your own mortality, and then start structuring your life in a more meaningful way.

2. Your material wealth won't make you a better or happier person.

Even if you're one of the lucky ones who achieves his or her materialistic dreams, money only amplifies that which was already present.

3. Your obsession with finding happiness is what prevents its attainment.

Happiness is always present in your life--it's just a matter of connecting to it and allowing it to flow through you that's challenging.

4. Donating money does less than donating time.

Giving your time is a way to change your perception and create a memory for yourself and others that will last forever.

5. You can't make everyone happy, and if you try, you'll lose yourself.

Stop trying to please, and start respecting your values, principles, and autonomy.

6. Your achievements and successes won't matter on your deathbed.

When your time has come to transition from this reality, you won't be thinking about that raise; you'll be thinking about the relationships you've made--so start acting accordingly.

7. Your talent means nothing without consistent effort and practice.

Some of the most talented people in the world never move out from their parent's basement.

8. Nobody cares how difficult your life is, and you are the author of your life's story.

Stop looking for people to give you sympathy and start creating the life story you want to read.

9. Investing in yourself isn't selfish. It's the most worthwhile thing you can do.

You have to put on your own gas mask to save the person sitting right next to you.

10. Time is your most valuable asset--you need to prioritize how you spend it.

You have the power and responsibility to decide what you do with the time you have, so choose wisely...

STAY BLESSED 🙏❤️

EYA Oliver Uchenna®️

26/09/2023

Onie Venenzuela

How to be Smart in Arguments.

1. Stay calm. Even if you get passionate about your point you must stay cool and in command of your emotions.

2. Use facts as evidence for your position. Facts, statistics, and quotes from credible sources and people are useful tools to deploy in support of your case.

3. Ask questions. If you can ask the right questions, you can stay in control of the discussion and make your opponent scramble for answers.

4. Use logic. Show how one idea follows another. Build your case and use logic to undermine your opponent.

5. Listen carefully. Do not so much focus on what to say and ignore the points of others. It is better to listen carefully. You will observe weaknesses and flaws in their position and sometimes you will hear something new and informative.

6. Be prepared to concede a good point. Don’t argue every point for the sake argument.

7. Study your opponent. Know their strengths, weaknesses, beliefs, and values. You will understand why they are making their points and position. Use the knowledge to decide if it worth proceeding with the arguments or giving it up if it doesn’t worth the stress and energy.

8. Look for a win-win. Be open-minded to a compromise position that accommodates your main points and some of your opponent’s.

9. Do not take it personal. Direct attacks on your opponent’s lifestyle, integrity or honesty should be avoided. Attack the issue not the person.

10. Do not get distracted. Your opponent may try to throw you off balance by introducing new and extraneous themes. You must be firm and avoid deviating to something else.

Good luck.

22/09/2023

THE HAPPY BOY AND THE WISE OLD MAN

A Short Moral Story.

There was a boy who was always cheerful and happy. One day, he went to a wise old man and said to him.
"I'm very happy, naturally. And I don't ever want to lose my happiness. Can you tell me some happiness-destroying habits I should avoid?".

The wise old man paused for a moment and said.
"Oh, yes, I can. But before that, I have a little task for you. Once you have performed this little task for me, I'm going to teach you what you need to know".

The boy whistled, smiling.
"What's the task, pa?"

The old man replied.
"I have an empty barrel in my backyard, and I want you to fill it up with water. I'll reward you with three coins once you're done. You'll have money to buy something for yourself. Three coins, all for you, boy!".

The boy became very excited as he was greatly in need of money. He took a bucket and rushed down to the stream to fetch water. After some minutes, he told the old man he had filled up the barrel. The old man said.
"Oh, I forgot there's another empty barrel in the kitchen. Would you mind filling it up as well? I'll offer you another three coins, that's a total of six coins. You'll buy a lot of things for yourself with that money. Six coins, all for you, boy!".

At that moment, the boy was determined to earn six coins. He hurriedly left for the stream, and in a short while, he filled up the barrel with water. When he went back to the old man, the man said.
"Oh my goodness, I'm such a forgetful old man. I didn't remember there's another empty barrel in my garden. If you can fill it up with water, I'll add three coins to your six coins, and you'll get nine coins altogether. Imagine what you'll buy with such amount of money. Nine coins, all for you, young lad!".

A look of cheerful excitement flashed across the boy's face. He found himself thinking about what he would do with nine coins. It didn't take him long to fill up the third barrel. Then he went back to the old man. However, instead of handing him the coins, the old man exclaimed.
"Oh no, I just realized I don't have any money on me. I am broke and I don't have any coin to give to you. I'm so sorry".

Upon hearing that, the smile on the boy's face suddenly disappeared, leaving it gloomy and dull. He became unhappy.

Just then, the old man began to smile, and surprisingly, he said.
"Don't worry, boy, I've got some coins for you. Remember when you asked me to tell you some habits that can destroy a person's happiness? Well, it may surprise you to know that everything I did was an intention to make you unhappy. In this way, I believe I can teach you properly. Listen up, boy... expectations are the real enemy of happiness. Just like how you expected nine coins from me, but became sad when you didn't get it. When we do something for someone, we tend to expect some favour or feelings from them which may not happen. Most of the time, our expectations are too high or unrealistic to be fulfilled by someone. We expect people to love us because we love them. We expect people to be good to us because we are good to them. We expect things to go our way. All of these things can easily cause frustration, disappointment, discouragement, stress, anger and resentment. However, if we lower our expectations of people and understand that they won't always live up to it, we can be happier in life".

Author: Chima_Dickson Official

I let my stories teach the life lessons.

21/09/2023

10 Dark Truths that will Make You Stronger.

1. Nobody cares about you, your plans, your goals, or your little dramas. So, stop pretending they do, or getting upset when they don't. Do the good things you have to do for your benefits.

2. When it comes to reaching your goals, discipline is more important than motivation. If you don't have discipline, you will never be committed to anything.

3. You are the only person capable of changing your life; no one can do that for you and no amount of excuses can do it for you. The easiest way to change yourself is to change the things you do each day.

4. The biggest threat to your progression in life isn't something or someone around you. It is you.

5. The key to a successful life lies not in what you know, but in what you do with what you know.

6. Failure is just a steppingstone on the road to success.

7. You can't change the past, but you can still d£stroy your future if you repeat the mistakes.

8. Success is not about what you accomplish, it's about who you become in the process.

9. Your comfort zone is a barren place. Nothing ever grows there.

10. Anything in life worth achieving will not be easy to get. Stop believing otherwise. If it was easy, everyone would get what they wanted. Most people give up on their goals when things become too difficult. Don’t be like them.

04/08/2023

"Success is no accident.
It is hard work,
perseverance,
learning,
studying,
sacrifice and
most of all,
love of what you are doing
or learning to do."

Thank you Mam Jengjeng🫰🧡💅💛

31/07/2023

“We need women
who are so strong
they can be gentle,
so educated they can be humble,
so fierce they can be compassionate,
so passionate they can be rational,
and
so disciplined they can be free.”

– Kavita Ramdas

Thank you Mam Khriz🤍



Extension with Gellish


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12/06/2023

Ó“You can be gorgeous at thirty,
charming at forty,
and irresistible for the rest of your life.”