02/02/2023
How to proper praise your children for the right way?
Proper praise and criticism will help children gain confidence, motivate children, promote correct behavior, and help children to be humble, receptive and learn.
So how should parents praise their children?
* DON'T: ANYTHING YOU DO IS GOOD!
When praising children instead of praising with the general words "excellent, excellent", so children will not know what they are good at, parents should be specific about praising children.
• For example, when your child can wear sandals instead of saying “oh you're so good”, you could say “oh you can wear sandals today, are you happy, are you more confident?”
* Should praise the child himself, not the child's product:
• For example: I can draw a picture, pick up a bowl of rice to eat, instead of praising my child's work, parents should praise me “Ah, you see how persistent I am to complete this picture right? ?, do you see? you can shovel the rice yourself, you've been patient and trying a lot right?
* Praise the process, not the result
• For example, when a child eats solid food and eats half a bowl of rice, a parent might say "now you can feed your own rice, you worked really hard, didn't you?"
"Now, I can eat by myself without your help. Today I have a spoon. Now I can eat a lot of vegetables."
* When using words to avoid children being dependent on other people's compliments, external compliments, children forget their own feelings.
* I am directing my child to feel proud of himself, independent of external emotions and praise. You should not look at other people's facial expressions but judge your own behavior. Build confidence in yourself instead of relying on your own judgment or judgment. Parents should help children self-assess, determine what children think of themselves, help children observe their own feelings.
• For example: When your friends share a cake, do you feel happy?
Do you feel happy when you put your own slippers inside the house?
* HOW DO I Criticize My Child Because He Doesn't Work
- Criticize children directly, criticize children in front of others to make them more self-aware
- When children make mistakes, parents should ask themselves why did their children do it wrong? (I made a mistake because I had not been guided, did not research carefully because recently bme did not pay attention to me).
- When finding the root cause, parents will give advice to children
• For example: "I haven't focused on studying lately, so this result is like this, from now on I should focus more on achieving this and that..."