20/04/2026
Long post ahead‼️ bUt to all breastfeeding moms out there might relate with me read till the end ☺️
Honestly, No one really talks about how lonely this journey can be.
Breastfeeding, pumping, working… and crying in between.?
There are moments when you want to quit. You feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and drained. But then comes the mom guilt, the kind that’s so hard to fight. And so, the cycle repeats.
Yet somehow, in the middle of all that, you still find yourself smiling at your babies.
Because the truth is, breastfeeding is not as easy as 1-2-3. It demands so much from us physically, mentally, and emotionally. It can be painful, exhausting, and overwhelming, especially for working moms. 🥹This is the reality many of us silently carry.
Not everyone understands. Some moms choose to stop early, and that’s okay. Others deeply want to continue, but circumstances don’t always allow it. Every journey is different, and every mom is doing her best.
Before anything else, let me share mine.
I’ve been breastfeeding for almost 6 years now.
I exclusively breastfed my eldest for 2 years, until I had to return to on-site work. I would travel 1 hour and 30 minutes one way, come home completely drained, my body aching, my mind tired. All I wanted was to lie down and rest.
But the moment I walked through the door, I’d hear, “Mommy, dede.”
And no matter how tired I was, my mom heart always won.
I couldn’t let her cry. A part of me kept saying, “This might be the only time you get to bond like this.” So breastfeeding became more than feeding, it became our comfort, our connection, our way of ending the day together.
I didn’t even realize how time passed, until 6 years later, I was still doing the same routine.
People around me my friends, family, even my husband would say, “Lutasa na kay big na.” (She’s too big already.) And honestly, it gets tiring to hear.
But how do you stop when your heart isn’t ready?
Because mom hearts? they always win. 🥹
Then came another chapter. I got pregnant again and had my second child.
This time, it felt more challenging. Being in my 30s, everything feels more tiring. I told myself I might go back to work after 3 months and maybe try mixed feeding.
But again, mom guilt whispered: “Kinaya mo sa first, kakayanin mo ulit.”
So I set a goal that if I could exclusively breastfeed for 6 months, I’d already be happy.
And by God’s grace, I’m still here. Pumping at work, latching at home. I’m not an oversupplier I’m just an “enougher” mom. And that’s more than enough.
It’s been almost 7 months now, longer than I expected.
Of course, challenges didn’t stop there. People around me suggested switching to formula, saying my milk might not be enough. But I chose to trust my body, my instincts, and my goal.
And I continued.
Now, my heart is full.
Breastfeeding has helped me save money in a time when milk is very expensive, but more than that, it has allowed me to give my children something incomparable. Breast milk is not just food; it’s protection, comfort, and love in its purest form. It strengthens their immunity, supports their growth, and builds a deep emotional bond that lasts a lifetime.
For me, breastfeeding became one of my greatest investments; not just for their health today, but for their future.
But this journey comes with sacrifices.
🌸 You can’t always wear what you want (you have to think about accessibility and comfort.)
🌸 You can’t just go anywhere or stay out as long as you like (someone is always waiting for you.)
🌸 Late nights, parties, and spontaneous plans become rare mostly cancelled.
🌸 Your body changes, and sometimes you don’t feel like yourself.
🌸 You become more mindful of what you eat and how you take care of your health.
There are so many more unspoken sacrifices.
And yes, the mom guilt is always there. When you’re tired, when you feel like you’re not enough, when you question if you’re doing things right. But at the same time, it also pushes you to keep going, to give your best, even on the hardest days.
Still, when you look at your child and remind yourself, “Hindi habang buhay sila bata,” everything shifts.
Because one day, they won’t need this anymore.
And you’ll realize that all the sleepless nights, the exhaustion, the sacrifices ? they were all worth it.
Breastfeeding may not be forever, but the love, the nourishment, and the bond it creates… those are long-term.
And that’s something no one can ever take away.
Mommy kung kaya ko, Kaya mo rin !
P.S. I’m not a breastfeeding expert, but feel free to message me if you need anything. I’d be happy to share some of my knowledge and experiences from my journey.
Thanks for being supportive on these journey hubby Jay-ar Ildefonso 😘
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