03/31/2026
Iām gonna add my two cents on this viral Mike mess since everybody and their cousin has an opinion. And Y'all know I sure as hell have opinions.. lmao
First off, let me say this: yes, I understand being in public and ending up in somebodyās video without asking for it. That part does happen. A few weeks ago, my son and I were at the doctorās office sick as dogs, just quietly talking to a guy from the gym about how many people had been sick, and some random fool sitting off to the side was recording us for no damn reason. So trust me, I get how violating and aggravating that is. People have gotten way too comfortable recording strangers and throwing them on the internet like everybody else is just background characters in their little show. So on that part alone, I can admit that not every single thing about this situation was necessarily his doing.
Now with that said... letās get to the part that is his doing.
Number one: this whole āI found my soulmate in a bar in one nightā nonsense is clown behavior. Baby, your standards and bar is so low itās in hell and they need a flashlight and a rescue team. One night in a mf bar got this loose goose thinking she found her āsoulmateā š... Girl your standards aināt just lowā¦ they buried beneath hell with a shovel š¤”š„“... You do not meet a man in a loud bar full of liquor, flirting, and bad decisions and somehow know within an hour that heās your forever person. That is not soulmate energy. That is poor judgment wearing lip gloss. Iām sorry, but some of yāall do not need a man, you need higher standards and a glass of water. But I digress....
And number two, which matters even more to me, is this: if that man is married (to Laura btw), what in the hell is he doing out partying at bars, getting drunk, chatting up women, and acting single? I do not care how anybody tries to dress it up. I do not care if itās ājust harmless fun,ā ājust the boys,ā ājust talking,ā or āeverybody does it.ā No. It is disrespectful. Flat out. And maybe Iām old-fashioned, maybe thatās why Iām still single, maybe my standards are ātoo highā these days because apparently expecting basic decency is asking for a miracle. But I said what I said.
If you are married, or even in a committed relationship, there are just some doors you do not need to be cracking open. Going out to bars without your spouse, getting drunk, entertaining attention, flirting, hanging all over people, letting people hang all over you, feeding off that attention like you still need outside validation... that is not mature relationship behavior. That is single behavior. That is āI still want the benefits of commitment while acting availableā behavior. And those two things do not mix.
And before anybody starts with āyou should be able to trust your partner,ā yes, you should. But trust and disrespect are not the same thing. You can trust somebody and still expect them to carry themselves with respect. You can trust somebody and still say, āDonāt act like youāre available when youāre with/dating/married to me.ā That is not being controlling. That is having standards and boundaries. That is expecting your relationship to be protected instead of constantly tested.
Same goes for social media. If youāre in a relationship, why are you hearting every other womanās photos, commenting ābeautifulā under selfies, flirting in the comments, sliding into inboxes, or acting like a fanboy under every half-dressed picture you see? It is disrespectful. I donāt care if itās a man doing it or a woman doing it. You should not be out here feeding other people attention that belongs in your own relationship. You can be kind. You can be friendly. You can speak to people. You can have conversations. But there is a very clear line between being respectful and acting thirsty, and too many people love pretending they donāt know where that line is.
And no, Iām not saying people become blind the minute they get married. Obviously attractive people still exist. You can notice somebody is pretty or handsome without turning into a damn cartoon wolf with your eyes popping out of your head and your tongue rolling across the floor. There is a respectful, grown way to carry yourself. You do not have to flirt with everything that blinks just because it crossed your path.
And donāt hit me with that āIām just a flirty, friendly person.. Thatās just my personality. ā mess that is total bu****it. š Yeah okayā¦ and Iām young, skinny, rich, and a super model. Ummmm. Nope! Not falling for it! Friendly aināt the problem, your lack of respect is.
Yeah... Nah... Aināt nobody that damn friendly that they canāt have some manners and respect, for their partner and for themselves. Nope, I'll never accept that lame ass excuse.. If thats your behavior, what you are is... disrespectful. Thereās a difference. Friendly donāt mean flirty, and it damn sure donāt mean crossing lines.
Thatās the problem now. So many people demand loyalty, honesty, and respect, but donāt want to give the same in return. They want freedom to do whatever, talk however, like whatever, entertain whoever, and then call you insecure when you donāt clap for it. No. Some of us are not insecure. Some of us are just tired of the bu****it.
Honestly, this kind of mess is exactly why a lot of people would rather stay single. Because peace is hard to beat, and being by yourself is a whole lot easier than being with somebody who constantly leaves the door cracked for disrespect, temptation, confusion, and embarrassment. Basically, I'll choose Respect and Peace Over Pe**er every damn day!
Call me old-school, call me too much, call me whatever you want. But if Iām with somebody, I expect respect. And if thatās too much to ask these days, then baby, I will gladly stay single and sleep just fine.
