07/13/2025
This!!
By 2030, nearly 45% of American women aged 25- 44 are projected to be single and child free.
People are calling it a “birth crisis.”
And while some (often men) are freaking out about it, wringing their hands and wondering, “Where have all the wives and mothers gone?” - I can’t help but ask: Are you actually surprised?
Because after generations of treating women like baby machines, ignoring what we’ve been saying, and building a system that works for men, not for women, what exactly did you think was going to happen?
Women are waking up.
We’re done being the unpaid laborers of society.
We’re done being expected to give up our dreams, bodies, careers, identities - without support, without security, without choice.
And the truth is, this “crisis” isn’t really about the birth rate.
It’s about control.
If society was really worried about women not having children, they’d focus on why it’s happening - not just the numbers.
They’d build a system that actually supports mothers:
Affordable childcare, paid parental leave, flexible work, healthcare that values women, shared domestic responsibilities, a culture that doesn’t punish us for being both ambitious and nurturing.
But instead, women are blamed.
We’re called selfish.
Too career-focused.
Too picky.
Too complicated.
Maybe the real problem isn’t that fewer women want kids - maybe the problem is that the world hasn’t done enough to make motherhood sustainable, safe, or empowering.
This isn’t about women rejecting motherhood.
It’s about women refusing to lose themselves in the process.
And honestly… good for us.
We deserve better.