02/26/2025
I’d be lying if I said I hated being single. Historically, it’s when I shine the brightest. Whether it’s for a season or a lifetime, I choose to see this time as a gift—a chance to walk boldly in the freedom, purpose, and intimacy with God that it offers.
Here is what I’ve learned. If you’re not content on your own, a relationship won’t fix that. You risk placing the weight of your unmet needs on your partner, subconsciously expecting them to fill a void that was never theirs to carry. That’s not love; that’s unnecessary pressure. True contentment starts with God, not another person.
Singleness isn’t just a waiting room—it’s a season of deep purpose, growth, and undivided devotion to God. Scripture speaks highly of it. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:32-34 that the unmarried can focus on the Lord’s work without distraction, while the married naturally have divided concerns.
Marriage is beautiful, but singleness has a unique strength. It’s a time to build, to serve, to grow in identity and faith without compromise. It’s not about lack—it’s about abundance in a different form.
Here’s the thing—there’s no way to know what the future holds. Trust me. Even when you think you’ve found “the one.” I’ve been married, divorced, and widowed. I’ve been accepted and rejected, deeply loved and completely cut off. Yet my life is still filled with joy because my identity isn’t rooted in my gender, my sexuality, my job or my relationship status or heaven forbid my political party—it’s anchored in my relationship with Christ. I know who I am because I know whose I am. That hasn’t been an easy lesson to learn, but it has brought me peace.
So whether you’re single, dating, married, or somewhere in between—walk in confidence. God is using every moment to shape you into who He created you to be. No season is wasted when it’s surrendered to Him.