01/17/2026
This is a little more personal than my usual posts. Nothing specific happened; I just felt like sharing something I’ve learned along the way and hopefully encouraging someone who needs it.
One thing I’ve learned over the years, often the hard way and especially through blogging, is that just because people can see you doesn’t mean they get to shape how you feel. Not with your time. Not with your energy. And, most of all, not with your joy.
When you put yourself out there, whether that’s blogging, creating, sharing your life, or just being visible, you invite opinions. It's inevitable. I can honestly say that the overwhelming majority are kind, encouraging, and thoughtful. But, a few? There are always those who show up just to tear things down. Accusations, constant criticism, and drive-by negativity from people who know absolutely nothing about who you are or what you’re carrying. (Yes, sadly, even I have been guilty of the same thing a time or two.)
No one likes hearing negative things about themselves. But over time, you learn to separate the two: Constructive criticism? I listen. Trolls and keyboard warriors? I don’t.
People ask me all the time how I handle those things. It's simple: If it’s a legit comment, critique, or question, I respond. If it’s toxic, rude, or just there to stir the pot, I use the delete button. It's that simple.
Yes, sometimes I have fun messing with trolls. I’m human. But I’m also clear about this: I will not allow toxic people to contaminate a good, healthy community.
But, here’s what I want YOU to hear, and I mean really hear it:
You are not required to keep toxic people in your life.
You are not obligated to give them space in your head.
They do not get to control how you feel or rob you of your joy.
Protect your peace. Guard your joy. Monitor your life the same way you monitor your FB feed. If someone constantly drains you, tears you down, or thrives on negativity, just remember it’s okay to step back. You have that power. That’s not a weakness. That’s wisdom.
This community means a lot to me. It’s kind, encouraging, and real. And I intend to keep it that way. Remember, your joy is valuable. Don’t hand it over to people who haven’t earned it. 💛
