Living Life in Anew Thyme

Living Life in Anew Thyme How do we make sense of who we are and our place in the world? How does our history help to make or break us? How does laughter help us walk thru our journey?

How does food help to bridge the gap between us? How does actively listening help us?

From the Wooden Spoon Kitchen...any dish that is flavorful and easy to make is one that stays in our go to cookbook.Smok...
09/06/2026

From the Wooden Spoon Kitchen...
any dish that is flavorful and easy to make is one that stays in our go to cookbook.

Smoked Bacon, Kielbasa and Baked Beans Casserole
Ingredients:
12 ounces Smoked Thick Bacon, finely diced
1 cup diced yellow onion
3 garlic cloves, finely chopped
2 small jalapeño peppers, seeded and finely chopped
12 ounces Kielbasa, sliced ¼ inch thick
¾ cup ketchup
½ cup prepared yellow mustard
½ teaspoon ground ginger
1 teaspoon dry yellow mustard
½ cup dark rum
3 tablespoons light brown sugar
2 tablespoons honey
¼ cup molasses
¼ cup light corn syrup
½ tablespoon hot pepper sauce
2 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce
1 15- to 19-ounce can each garbanzo beans (chick peas), black beans and great northern beans*

Directions:

1. In a large saucepan or pot, cook bacon over medium heat for about 12 minutes, stirring continually with a wooden spoon, until browned and crispy.

2. Add onion, garlic and jalapeños. Lower the heat and cook for 7 minutes, or until the onion is translucent.

3. Add all remaining ingredients except beans. Increase the heat and bring to a boil, then reduce heat and simmer, stirring mixture often, for 15 minutes.

4. Drain all the beans, rinse gently under cold running water and then drain again. Add to the mixture and stir well to combine. Simmer gently, uncovered, for approximately 1 hour. Makes 6 hearty servings.

*I use beans that are in my pantry to include dark red kidney beans and white beans.

It's been 3 years since I closed my brick n mortar shop.  We're readying for a major move so destash has become a favori...
09/04/2026

It's been 3 years since I closed my brick n mortar shop. We're readying for a major move so destash has become a favorite word around our home.

Mark your calender and please share. There are some great deals coming up!

I needed little metal footies added to a couple of totebags.  My go to is Syd's Shoe Repair on Pacific Ave - Tacoma.  Ex...
09/03/2026

I needed little metal footies added to a couple of totebags. My go to is Syd's Shoe Repair on Pacific Ave - Tacoma. Except Syd's has closed their doors! Closed as in they will not be back. Clock/watch repair, shoe repair are not like nail salons (one on every corner). So the hunt began. Luckily there's one in Lakewood.

But what's up with Lakewood? Who designed the streets? Hundreds of little strip malls and streets that meet at the oddest angles. It's a nightmare to drive around. Luckily, Ardesson Shoe Repair is around the corner from Hess Deli/Bakery and the Goodwill (both frequent destinations for me).

My treat was a slice of cherry cheesecake from the bakery across the hall from Hess Bakery & Deli.
P.S. I ate a small piece with my fingers in the car 😉

Black History is American History…
09/02/2026

Black History is American History…

A young Black woman sat down in the whites-only section of a Durham ice cream parlor in 1957 and ordered chocolate, on purpose, off the top of the menu, because it was the good stuff, and then she was convicted of trespassing for refusing to get out of the seat. Which is worth knowing, because every summer the internet tells you chocolate was the punishment Black people were stuck with under Jim Crow, and that vanilla was banned except on the Fourth of July. Nobody has ever produced that law, and the rule that is documented is uglier and simpler than a flavor.

Eight people came up the back steps of an ice cream store in Durham, North Carolina, doing everything exactly the way they were supposed to do it.

Up from the parking lot, a few concrete steps, in through the back door. That much was correct.

What was supposed to happen next is that they stopped. You stood just inside that door and you waited, in a spot everybody understood without a sign, until the waiter had finished with all the white customers out front.

Then he took your order. Then he handed your ice cream to you in a bag or in a paper cup, and you carried it back down the steps and ate it off the property.

That was the arrangement at the Royal Ice Cream Company, and it was a good business, popular, sitting right in the middle of a Black neighborhood on the corner of Roxboro and Dowd.

On the evening of June 23, 1957, the eight of them came through that back door and did not stop.

There was a swinging door between the waiting spot and the rest of the store. Somebody pushed it, and Williams's memory is that Reverend Douglas Moore was at the front, and the whole group went through and sat down in the booths.

Virginia Williams, who was twenty years old and had been coming to those meetings for a few months, remembered the room being nearly empty when they walked in, and then suddenly not empty at all. A man looks up, and every booth on that side is full.

There were white customers in the building, and the two women who were there remember it slightly differently. Clyburn says the ones already inside jumped up and ran out, and Williams remembers some coming in the front door, seeing the booths taken, and turning straight back around.

Then they stood outside and peeped back in through the window to see what these people were going to do.

Clyburn was about the same age as Williams, twenty or so, and when the moment came she did not order small. She went to the top of the board.

A generous serving, the expensive kind, with chocolate on it. She has said since that she ordered the top-shelf stuff, because if she was going to sit in that booth she was going to sit in it properly.

Hold onto that order. We are going to come back to it, and it is going to take the legs out from under something you have been told your whole life.

Nobody brought it. A busboy came over and asked them to move to the colored side, and Moore asked to speak to the manager instead.

The owner came out. Louis Coletta, an Italian immigrant who owned the building with a partner, and he said he did not want any trouble, he just wanted them to leave.

They kept asking for ice cream. He kept asking them to go, and they kept trying to place the order, and this went back and forth long enough that the store filled up with an audience.

Because Sunday evening was when the neighborhood children came in for ice cream. That was the routine, that was their treat, and they knew exactly where they were supposed to stand.

They came in, saw grown Black people sitting in the white booths, and could not process it. Williams remembered them at the windows, every one of them Black, peeking in because they did not believe what they were looking at.

So there were two sets of faces at that glass in the same hour. White adults who had run out, and Black children who could not get their heads around the fact that somebody was sitting down.

Coletta finally said the thing out loud. He would serve them on the colored side and not on the white side, which is the entire architecture of Jim Crow compressed into one sentence by a man who thought he was being reasonable.

Then he called the police.

An officer told Moore he was under arrest, and then offered him a door out of it, saying that if they would just get up and leave, nobody would be charged with anything.

They stayed in the booths.

One of the eight slipped out before the officers finished. Lieutenant Wallace Upchurch and several men arrested the seven who did not.

Somebody decided the three young women would be allowed to ride down together.

At the station they were fingerprinted. Williams did not recall being photographed and was not sure they were even weighed.

The bondsmen were already there when they arrived, which tells you how fast word had traveled in Black Durham. By the time the paperwork was done, every bond had been paid.

There was a man standing off to the side muttering to himself, and Williams had to ask who he was, because she had only been in Durham a few months and did not know the players yet.

It was Louis Austin, who owned the Carolina Times. He was furious that he had not gotten there in time to bail out all of them himself.

Now here is what that evening has spent seventy years losing to.

Every summer a claim goes around that Black people in the Jim Crow South were forbidden to buy vanilla ice cream, and were allowed it on exactly one day a year, the Fourth of July.

Food writers have repeated it, museums have printed it, and it has run up millions of views on TikTok.

Nobody has ever produced the law. Reporters and historians have gone looking for the statute, the ordinance, the town code, any piece of paper at all, and come back with nothing.

The line everybody builds the claim on is Maya Angelou's, from I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, and it does not say what people think it says.

Angelou was not reporting a rule she ran into at a counter in Stamps, Arkansas. She was writing down something people in her town used to say about their white neighbors, a folk measurement of how far the prejudice went, with chocolate as the year round consolation prize.

The culinary historian Michael Twitty put a version of it in the Guardian on the Fourth of July in 2014, and he was careful about it. He wrote plainly that this was custom and not law, and the memory he offered from his own family was of his father being grabbed by the collar in a South Carolina store for saying Sir instead of Yassuh.

In June 2024 a Snopes investigation went looking for a single firsthand account tying a refusal to vanilla specifically, and could not turn up one.

Now go back to that booth in Durham.

The young woman who would be convicted of trespassing that night, not for walking in and not for sitting down, but for refusing to get up when she was told to, ordered chocolate.

Deliberately. Because it was the good stuff and she wanted it.

The internet has spent years telling you chocolate was the punishment. The woman who actually did something about it picked it off the top of the menu on the night she sat down.

The documented rule at a place like Royal Ice Cream was never about the flavor. It was about the seat, and knowing that is not a technicality, it is the difference between a story that makes you sad and a story that shows you the machine.

The butter pecan half of the claim fails the same way. The story says Black families turned to butter pecan because vanilla was closed off, and Twitty himself has called that reasoning illogical.

But there is a real man buried underneath that half, and the meme keeps his work and drops him.

Here is the problem with a pecan. Plant the nut off a magnificent tree and what comes up is not that tree, so for most of the nineteenth century a superior pecan could be admired and could not be copied.

A doctor named Colomb, across the river in St. James Parish, Louisiana, had a tree like that and could not reproduce it. In the winter of 1846 his graftwood was handed to an enslaved gardener at Oak Alley, who got sixteen grafts to take where the attempts before him had failed, and eventually brought a hundred and twenty six trees along.

His nuts went to the Philadelphia Centennial Exposition in 1876 and took a prize, and the variety got named Centennial after the fair. He shows up in his owner's estate inventory as thirty eight years old, a gardener and expert grafter of pecan trees, valued at a thousand dollars.

His name was Antoine, and that is all of it. No surname, no birth year, no grave, and after the war the new owners cut most of his trees down to put in sugarcane.

What the record does hold, in place of a law about a flavor, is smaller and much worse.

In the summer of 1947, Audre Lorde's parents took the family to Washington to celebrate her finishing the eighth grade. It was a graduation present, and her father had a sense of occasion about it.

Two blocks from their hotel he decided everybody needed to cool off, and the five of them walked into a Breyer's ice cream and soda fountain. It was dim inside and fan cooled, and after the glare of the street it felt like relief.

They sat themselves down along a white marble counter, one at a time, in a row. Audre was in the middle, between her mother and her father.

They ordered vanilla.

The waitress said something and nobody understood her, so the five of them just sat there waiting. She came down the line, closer to the father this time, and said it again so they would get it.

She could give it to them to take out. They could not eat it there.

Read that sentence twice, because that is the actual rule, in the waitress's own mouth, and the flavor has nothing to do with it.

They could buy the vanilla. Their money was good in that store on that afternoon, and the store would have handed it over.

What was forbidden was the sitting down.

Which is precisely what a Black customer at the Royal Ice Cream Company got ten years later. Your ice cream in a bag or a paper cup, out the back door, off the property, and thank you for your money.

That is why the sit-in became such a useful weapon against Jim Crow. The counter was never really about food.

It was about being seen at rest, in public, like any other customer, and that was the one thing a segregated store would not hand over at any price.

The trial came at them fast.

The lawyers wanted a continuance because Conrad Pearson, the attorney they wanted, was in New York. The judge said Monday morning that he was calling the case that day.

Which gave them roughly an hour to get Virginia Williams off her shift. She worked in food service at Duke Hospital, and somebody had to drive over, find her, and pull her off the floor.

She went to her manager and said only that something had come up and she had to leave immediately. She did not explain, and she knew she did not have to, because the woman had already read the morning paper.

Her manager told her that was fine, and to call if she could not come in tomorrow. Williams walked out thinking that did not sound half bad.

She kept that job. When the Superior Court trial came around and she needed two more days off, nobody said a word about that either.

At Recorder's Court they were convicted of trespassing and fined ten dollars each plus costs. They appealed and asked for a jury.

The Superior Court trial drew a full courtroom, and Williams remembered what happened before a word of evidence was heard.

The seven of them were not given anywhere to sit. They were made to stand in front of a row of white police officers who were seated comfortably, waiting to testify.

Their attorney, William Marsh Jr., stopped and asked the officers to give up their seats to his clients. The officers stood up, Williams said, with an attitude about it, and the seven people on trial for sitting down where they were not wanted sat down on a bench in the courtroom.

That is the only time in this entire story that anybody hands them a seat, and a lawyer had to ask for it out loud.

On July 16, 1957, an all white jury in Durham County Superior Court took twenty four minutes to convict them again and added twenty five dollars apiece.

The state Supreme Court upheld it in January 1958, and in the course of doing so it mentioned when North Carolina's criminal trespass statute had been written. 1866.

The year after the war ended. The title the legislature gave that act in 1866 put willful trespass on a man's land in the same breath as stealing his property, which tells you what a Black body in the wrong room had been legally filed under, and how recently that filing had been made.

Justice William Rodman wrote that a man in possession of a private business may accept or reject whomever he likes, and the phrase the court chose for the standard was "whatsoever whim suits his fancy." The Fourteenth Amendment, he wrote, raises no shield against private conduct, however discriminatory or wrongful it happens to be.

He was quoting the Supreme Court of the United States, and on the law as it stood in 1958 he was not wrong. That is the part that should keep you up at night.

The seven appealed to Washington, and the Supreme Court of the United States declined to hear the case. The North Carolina judgment stood.

You will find it written in several places that the Court refused them because their rights had not been violated. A refusal to hear a case does not come with a reason attached, and no such ruling exists.

On July 15, 1958, the seven of them paid fines totalling four hundred and thirty three dollars and twenty five cents.

There is one more thing in that court file worth your attention.

The opinion describes the building as one store cut in two by a partition, and it states that each half had booths, a counter and stools. Separate but equal furniture, on paper, in the permanent record of the state.

The people who were actually in the building remember standing. They remember waiting on their feet by the back door until the white customers were finished, and a bag or a cup, and the steps.

Both of those descriptions are now in the record forever. One of them is what the state wrote down, and one of them is what it was like to walk in there, and you should notice which one has the courthouse behind it.

The cost did not stop at the fine.

An officer questioning Williams afterward told her that if she had been his daughter he would have put her across his lap and spanked her. She was twenty years old, she had just been fingerprinted, and she answered him without blinking.

If she were his daughter, she said, she would not be over here for this.

The news took a week or two to travel down to Northampton County, where her people farmed cotton and corn and peanuts on a white man's land. Somebody read it in the paper and carried it home.

Her father was extremely proud of her. He told her she did what was right.

That mattered more than it sounds, because Williams had grown up watching that man put on his Sunday best every few months and leave the house without explaining where he was going. Her mother would not say where.

Eventually her mother admitted he was going to the NAACP meeting, and that it was not a thing you discussed out loud in Northampton County in the 1940s.

Her mother did not take the arrest well at all. It was not the cause she objected to, it was the jail, and what a daughter in jail would do to the family name in a small town where everybody was already talking.

Black Durham, on the whole, was not proud of them. The Committee on Negro Affairs, the Ministerial Alliance and the local NAACP all treated the sit-in as reckless and badly timed, likely to wreck the slow legal work already under way on the schools.

Most of the seven were not from Durham, and that got used against them. Williams was from out of town, Moore was from out of town, Claude Glenn was from out of town, and the word that went around was troublemakers.

She never heard it to her face. She heard it the way you always hear it, from a friend, who heard it from a friend, whose mother was up in arms about the whole crowd of them.

Mary Clyburn was shocked by it, and she hid her part in the sit-in for years afterward. In the historian Christina Greene's account she remembered the ugly faces in that crowd, and how the Black ones looked madder than the white ones.

ACT, the little political group that planned the whole thing, broke up not long after.

So it fell to children. High school NAACP members, more than half of them girls, walked a picket line outside that store under the attorney Floyd McKissick, and they kept walking it for six years.

The color line at Royal Ice Cream did break, in 1963.

The historian Christina Greene reports how. Coletta sold the establishment, and the new owners reopened it without any seating in it at all.

That was the settlement at Roxboro and Dowd. Nobody had to be served at a counter, because there was no longer a counter to be served at.

The building itself came down on August 9, 2006, demolished to clear ground for a school.

A state historical marker went up on that corner afterward, approved in 2007, twenty eight years after the first attempt, with at least four earlier requests turned down. For most of those years the committee's stated position was that the Royal Ice Cream sit-in was not significant enough to mark.

One of the men arguing in 1979 that Durham deserved that marker was a prosecutor who had helped convict them in 1957.

The marker carries one sentence about a segregation protest on that site leading to a court case, and it does not carry a single one of their names. People who have gone looking for it report that from any distance it is hidden behind a tree.

Virginia Williams has a photograph of them from 1957, taken at Asbury Temple, with Moore serving the group Holy Communion in the little glasses, probably on the Sunday before the Superior Court trial. She never submitted it to anybody.

She would not hand it over because Jesse Gray is not in the picture, and she was not going to let a version of that day go into the record with one of them missing. She also mentioned, almost in passing, that every time somebody interviews her she gives them her original photographs and never gets them back.

There is one place where the government of North Carolina wrote all seven of them down in full, and it is the caption of the case that convicted them.

State against Mary Elizabeth Clyburn, against Claud Edward Glenn, against Jesse Willard Gray, against Vivian Elaine Jones. State against Douglas Elaine Moore, against Melvin Haywood Willis, against Virginia Lee Williams.

Seven separate prosecutions, listed one under another, middle names and all. Three women and four men, most of them barely into their twenties, over a dish of ice cream that nobody ever brought to the table.

The state took the trouble to spell them out correctly only in order to convict them.

By the time Williams sat for that 2003 interview she was already listing the dead. Vivian Jones had been gone for years, and Melvin Willis had died around the turn of the century.

Virginia Williams never married, never had children, and never learned to drive a car. She rode the city bus downtown into her eighties, ate lunch at the same bakery, kept a landline and refused a cellphone, and in 2025, at eighty eight, the city she had moved to as a girl looking for work handed her an award.

Mary Clyburn Hooks spent a long stretch of her life not telling people where she had been that Sunday evening. She was asked recently what the sit-in left her with, and her answer was about furniture.

Every time she gets the chance now, she sits down somewhere.

They would always sell you the ice cream. Any flavor you wanted, all year round, and they would take your money with a smile.

In a bag, out the back, off the property.

It was never the ice cream. It was the chair.

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From the Wooden Spoon Kitchen…Thai Pesto with Rice Noodles & Shrimp4 SERVINGSIngredients:1/2 cup cilantro tops (leaves w...
08/30/2026

From the Wooden Spoon Kitchen…

Thai Pesto with Rice Noodles & Shrimp
4 SERVINGS

Ingredients:
1/2 cup cilantro tops (leaves with tender sprigs), packed
1/2 cup fresh Thai basil leaves, packed
1/4 cup (a handful) fresh mint leaves
1/4 cup peanut butter, microwaved on high for 15 seconds to loosen
1/4 cup peanut or canola oill
2 tablespoons fish sauce, plus a splash for the shrimp
2 - 3 large cloves garlic, crushed and peeled
1 - 2 small fresh red Thai chiles, seeded
1-inch piece ginger, peeled and grated
Juice of 1 lime (about 2 tbsp.)
1 tablespoon (packed) brown sugar
1 pound large shrimp--peeled, deveined and halved lengthwise
Black pepper
8 ounces rice noodles
1/2 small head iceberg lettuce, shredded

Preparation:
Bring a large pot of water to a boil for the rice noodles.

In a food processor, pulse the herbs, peanut butter, about 3 tbsp. oil, 2 tbsp. fish sauce, garlic, chiles, ginger, lime juice and brown sugar to make the pesto. Transfer the pesto to a large, shallow serving bowl.

In a large skillet, heat the remaining 1 tbsp. oil over high. Stir-fry the shrimp until just cooked through, 3 minutes. Season with fish sauce and pepper.

Add the noodles to the boiling water; cook until tender. Stir about 3/4 cup pasta cooking water into the pesto to thin. Drain the noodles, then toss with the pesto and most of the shrimp. Toss in the lettuce. Serve in shallow bowls, topped with the rest of the shrimp.

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