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18/06/2026

AITAH for telling my wife that the whole family is catering to her stress because she goes to bed at 6 PM every single day?

Wife gets up a 6am. I get up around 7am. She works 30 hrs a week, picks up daughter on the way home at 2pm. I work from home, 40hr week. Son comes home early two times a week. I make lunch for him. Otherwise wife cooks dinner at 3pm. I stop working at around 4pm. We both do our share of things around the house. Additionally I take daughter to music lessons, ballet, cheerleading and horse riding (4x a week) after I finish work. That's not a problem. I feel I do more, she feels she does more.

Problem is: wife goes to bed at 6pm. Every day, without exception. Saturdays and Sundays are often in bed. She's on the phone watching movies. I "do" the evenings, kids sleep at 9pm. I go to bed about 11pm. I clean up the house, dishes, be around the kids when they need something. Because she makes dinner at 3pm, they're usually hungry again. Then they need to go to bed. Often they want to connect with me. My day finishes late. They make noise, mum yells from her bed to be quiet and go to bed.

I am upset because she's just not present. I feel like a single father in the evenings. And I believe the children need both parents present at night. Not supervising. Just present. Maybe she can watch shows in the living room instead? The kids have space to play in their rooms, together, do homework or whatever and have parents that are close but not distant or suffocating. Maybe we can make...

18/06/2026

AITA for refusing to give my niece what she wants for her birthday?

Yesterday, we had a big family gathering, which meant my older sister (29) and her daughter (6) came over. For half of the day, everything was well and good. After lunch, my sister got tired, so I (27F) volunteered to look after my niece when my sister took a nap.

Now, I have a collection of stuff animals and 20cm (7.8 inches for those in America) dolls, which I let my niece played with when her mother napped. Then my sister woke up, joined us, and we spent some more time together before she announced it was time for them to leave.

This was when my niece pointed at the doll I was holding and said she liked him, and that she wanted me to give him to her. I told her that she could get any other doll and/or stuff animals that she wanted from my collection, just not this one. My niece got really upset and started crying, saying that her birthday was coming (it's next week), and she wanted that doll as her birthday present. Again, I told her I couldn't give him to her, explaining to her he was very important to me.

I didn't tell my niece in detail about why he is important to me, because she's still too young to understand, but I will explain it here to give a clearer picture. I've had this doll for a long while now, back in the darkest time of my life, when nothing seemed to go right for me. I was advised to find an outlet, letting out my thoughts...

18/06/2026

AITA for refusing to drive my girlfriend anywhere, forcing her to stop her hobby?

My (30M) girlfriend (30F) cannot drive. She did lessons over 3 years ago, hates driving and refuses to drive. She never took her test so she doesn't have a driver's license.

During covid she decided to stop working and I mentioned to her that it would be good for her to use that time to practice driving and do her test since where we live there isn't a ton of public transport, and asked her to let me know when she wanted to practice driving.

After 6 months where she never asked me to practice I started pushing her to do some driving and we started going. She would have a panic attack every time a car was behind her and had forgotten lots of rules of the road (she wasn't braking before getting to a roundabout and whenever I said to her to brake she'd get angry) so I told her it'd be better to reach out to a professional and do more lessons and offered to pay for it. She never did and asking her about it would cause issues so I stopped.

When she started looking for a job she had to accept the only job that was easy to reach with public transport. After getting the job she told me she'd never drive and I told her that was ok but I would not be driving her places anymore because she had years to start driving and chose not to.

She now registered for dance classes, which have been her hobby since forever, but the classes are 15-20 minutes away...

17/06/2026

AITA for telling my half sister I don't think she's gonna make it through med school, after she said my doctorate means nothing?

Throwaway, sorry for the long title

I (31f) have a half sister Sharon (25f). Sharon and I were never super close as I spent most of my time with my dad, and my mom, step dad and Sharon were a "proper family" while I just became the other kid. I didn't mind much because again, I preferred staying with my dad anyway but he sadly passed when I was 16. I'm kind of low contact with my family now, but I usually get invited to family events and see them there, and we talk/message occasionally. Also, I have a doctorate so my title is Dr (important to the issue).

There was a big party last night for Sharon recently getting into med school. It was at a restaurant and there were place cards with everyone's names on the tables, they all said {title} {full name}. I noticed my card said Miss, but I didn't say anything then. Later when I was talking to Sharon, I just said 'oh by the way, I think you might have messed up my card, I'm Dr not Miss'. Sharon said I'm not a real doctor, to which I replied I have a doctorate so I also go by Dr . She then said it's not really the same thing. I said again, people who have doctorates are also referred to as doctor even if they're not in the medical field. Sharon then said I was "undermining her achievement" and med school is a lot harder, so my doctorate means nothing. I got mad at her constant jabbing, so I told...

17/06/2026

AITA for saying my mom doesn't care about me and embarrassing her in public?

Just for some context, I (M17) have had long hair for about a year now and I love it. I've never felt as confident and good looking as I do with long hair than when I used to have shorter hair. A few weeks ago I decided that I wanted to experiment more with my hair, because why not, so I dyed some parts of it blue and I LOVE it. I literally haven't felt this good about myself in so long.

Anyway, my mom hates it of course since she's pretty traditional and thinks I look like a girl. Since then she's been constantly hinting at getting my hair cut and I'd just laugh or ignore it. Graduaton day is coming up very soon though, so today she tried to force me to get my hair cut, and a lot shorter than what I wanted (would've preferred no haircut at all tbh but I tried to meet her in the middle).

The entire day I was basically begging her to not make me cut my hair and then she'd either say she didn't care, or say that my hair was ugly / disgusting / weird / etc.. Now I'm the type of person to literally not care at all about what other people think of me, but it's a little different when it comes from your own mother.

At this point, I was more mad about the fact that I'm turning 18 in less than a month and she still thinks she can control every aspect about myself. I get it, her house her...

17/06/2026

WIBTA if I said I couldn't have children just to shut people up?

Okay, just hear me out

I'm a female in my 20s and am childless. I do not want kids. It's just a fact. It's 64° outside, the sky is blue and I don't want kids. I do not want that responsibility and nothing about it is appealing to me.

Pregnancy freaks me out, it's disgusting to me. Thinking of that happening to me (labor, baby kicks, the body changes, something inside me like a parasite) makes me squeamish. Knees weak and I wanna faint feeling. I also have things in my bloodline I would never want to pass to a child.

I also have endometriosis. Incredibly painful and causes a lot of issues. It really gets in the way of daily life at times so I want a hysterectomy but can't find a doctor to agree. Once I was told no because, "If your husband wants kids you wouldn't be able to make him happy" - direct quote, also I'm not married and she knew that. Topic for a different time. It is actually a possibility that I can't conceive though.

People always have to make it their business. I don't understand why it's considered okay to just randomly pressure women about kids. They always pressure me, guilt me, question me, make me feel uncomfortable, condescendingly tell me I'll change my mind, or sometimes just go full attack mode on me.

People also don't like to drop it. They always persist and just won't shut up and accept my choice. It always has to become them trying to change my mind or telling...

17/06/2026

AITAH for breaking up because my girlfriend “outed” me?

I made an account just for this, so I hope that’s ok. I’m not sure it will let me post.

I 23(M) am bisexual. I have known this since I was 17. I’ve been with both men and women but only women publicly and in actual relationships.

I am Japanese and being bi is not something I can open up about without serious consequences in my life.

I am always myself though. I’ve never needed to hide anything other than the fact that I also find men attractive. My natural demeanor is very “straight presenting”. It can be frustrating to hide being bi, but it hasn’t been world-ending. I’m not very inconvenienced by it so far.

I’ve been with my current girlfriend 27(F) for a year. We have never had any problems. Until recently.

While she was drunk at a party.. she outed me as bisexual in front of our friends, including a colleague of mine (who knows my family). I didn’t react when it happened. She was sitting in my lap and I only gave her a look. I think her comment was passed off as a joke.

When we got back to her apartment that night— I didn’t want to stay. I was angry at her for spilling a secret that I confided in her about. I treated her coldly when she tried to apologize and I left (clarification: this was not a true apology, it was physical affection/distraction attempts to avoid conflict and get me to stay). I told her she was drunk. Let’s talk in the morning...

16/06/2026

AITA for refusing to work with my ex on disciplining our kids in front of his and his wife's families?

My ex and I share custody of our 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter. We divorced 9 years ago. My ex is now happily remarried going on 3 years now. We're okay with each other. Mostly civil but we're not close and don't see eye to eye on a lot of things post-divorce.

This is a conflict that stems from a couple of different things but I really wanna know what others think.

So I picked my kids up from my ex's parents house on Sunday. Ex and his wife, plus the kids, all of ex's family and many of his wife's family members were there. Ex called me back to the yard to talk and he told me he had told the kids they were grounded for a week with no phone or internet and for another week they would be doing acts of kindness for his wife.

He punished them because during this family gathering they decided to do a game where the moms and their kids teamed up. The kids continued sitting and when asked why they said because their mom (meaning me) wasn't there. They were told they would be teaming up with "their other mom" and my kids asked why, ex's wife isn't their mom. Ex told them she acts as their mom at their house and my kids said she's not their mom and wouldn't ever be their real mom though. My son said they'd need to call me to participate in a mom and kid game.

Everyone was furious they would speak about their...

16/06/2026

AITA for cooking with cooking wine when I am a recovering a**oholic?

I am a recovering a__oholic and I have been sober for 4 years. One thing that came out of sobriety was my love for cooking. In the beginning, it kept me busy and I didn't want to drink if I was not hungry.

Now, I just love the process of making a delicious meal for myself and loved ones. Recently I had my family over for a meal. One of the components of the meal was chicken Marsala.

I love chicken Marsala. I make and eat it all the time. One of the ingredients is cooking Marsala wine.

I brought out the meal and my sister asked what the chicken was. I said it was chicken Marsala. She asked if I used wine.

I said I use cooking wine, not regular wine. This started an argument about me using and owning cooking wine as an a__oholic. My sister said that I am relapsing by cooking with it and they I have basically been lying to them about being sober.

I argued back that you don't get drunk from eating food with cooking wine. You are ingesting some alcohol, but the whole recipe had 2/3 of a cup of wine, my portion has even less. I make this because it's delicious, not because it gets me buzzed.

It also does not trigger any cravings for me to drink. If I buy a bottle, I use it to cook and it sits untouched in the cabinet until I need it to cook next time. She ended up leaving and yelled at me to 'not...

16/06/2026

AITAH for considering ending a 5 year long relationship over how my GF treated me on my birthday?

My birthday was last week. My girlfriend (both 29) offered to make me breakfast and asked when I'd like it. I said 10:30am.

We had an argument the night before, but we apologized and made peace. I was sick (fever, cough) and slept on the couch so she could rest undisturbed. The next morning, I woke up and started making breakfast so it'd be ready at 10:30.

She rushed in and told me she'd make it later, then left to go back to sleep because she hadn't slept well after our fight. I was confused and hurt but finished making breakfast alone. I even cried a bit before pulling myself together.

She sat down while I was eating and immediately brought up the previous night again, despite already receiving a sincere apology. I apologized again, but she kept accusing me of not listening or owning up. This happens often my feelings get dismissed, my apologies go unheard, and any attempt to share how I feel is turned back on me.

Later, she casually said, 'Next time I won't suggest breakfast that early,' when she had asked me what time I wanted it. It stung. It was my birthday a day that really matters to me and instead of feeling celebrated, I felt ignored and blamed.

She hadn't even said happy birthday yet. I gently told her it hurt that she didn't follow through on what we agreed. She got defensive, saying I wasn't being empathetic.

When I reminded her how important birthdays are to me, she started crying and asked if she's...

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