09/10/2025
"Please advise me on this situation, The 4yr old little girl is my daughter, i'm actually a single mom &, i work as an accountant. I just got my baby back from my mom's place where she's been living for close to 2 years now. Actually,. I had to let her stay with my mom to avoid issues with my fiance'
He had made it clear he doesn't like seeing my daughter around, according to him he loves me so much & seing my daughter reminds him that I've once been with another man in the past & not him
I really love this guy, so, to avoid issues in my relationship, I had to take her to my mother to look after her. But i just went to take her back after processing the whole idea.. Actually, I just called off my wedding due to my fiance's behavior. Can you imagine that? Aside not liking my daughter, This person hasn't spent a single penny on the preparations of our upcoming wedding.
The wedding is in 2 weeks, but he keeps saying his money is tied up in a blocked account & that i should borrow him some money from my savings & also take a loan for him & he'll reimburse me when he finally officially takes his money from the bank, Mind you, I've been the one contributing financially to this person since day one of our relationship.
I've never asked this guy for anything cuz I'm a working-class lady. I've never received even a gift for Valentine's Day, not even my birthday from him. But I never let those things get to me, even though I considered them significant concerns. I was still hoping I could influence him over time, but instead, his behavior keeps getting worse by the day. Each time I need a little assistance from him for financial support, he'll always complain that business is slow. The times that he even manages to give me money, it's always on a temporary basis, as he'll ask me to pay him back later cuz he needs the money for something...
About 4 months ago, I moved in with him. When his siblings come around for weekends, I always feed them well, making sure they're okay, & even buy gifts for them when they're about to leave. Meanwhile, my own siblings are not even allowed to come around the house. Not even on weekends as he keeps complaining. He'll always complain that we don't have money to feed extra people, even when the money for food is supposed to come from my purse.
I actually sat down last week & had a reflection about his conduct, & I've been asking myself if this is really the type of husband I really want to spend the rest of my life with, & if he can ever change. It's been like 2 years that we've been together. I spoke to a counselor & later realized I might not be able to put up with him, & that's why i decided to call off the wedding. I hope I made the right choice? Or am I too quick? Or I'm i making a mistake? I'm 29 years old soon to clock 30 in 4 months. Will i be able to find someone better to marry me at my age. please Can he really ever change? I need genuine answers, Help, please !!! "