17/06/2026
Shame we fight over petty story's 🤣 😒
🔥 IS THIS REALLY ABOUT IMMIGRATION OR ABOUT CONTROLLING WOMEN? 🔥
A heated debate has erupted on social media after activist Phakel'umthakathi Ndabandaba was accused of shaming a South African woman for having a relationship with a Malawian man.
According to those defending the woman, she was abandoned by the father of her first two children, a Zulu man, and later found love with a Malawian man who reportedly accepted her and helped raise all three children as his own.
Critics argue that instead of celebrating a man who stepped up and took responsibility, some activists chose to mock and humiliate the woman because her partner is from another African country.
Nobert Mkhize did not hold back. He accused certain anti-immigration figures of hypocrisy, saying they preach patriotism while attacking women for exercising their freedom to choose who they love.
"Women are not government property," he said. "No politician, activist or movement has the right to decide who a woman dates."
Mkhize went further, questioning whether some anti-immigration campaigns have shifted from addressing border control issues to policing the personal lives of women.
"If your solution to South Africa's problems is telling women who they must date, then you've already lost the argument," he said.
The comments have divided social media.
One side argues that South African women should be free to date anyone who treats them with love, respect and dignity, regardless of nationality.
The other side insists that relationships involving foreign nationals cannot be separated from broader immigration concerns.
Now the debate is growing:
❓ Should a woman's choice of partner be nobody else's business?
❓ Is criticizing women for dating foreigners protecting the country, or controlling women?
❓ If a foreign man raises children abandoned by a South African father, who deserves the criticism?
🔥 South Africans are divided. What is your view?
